Give yourself a warming 6 minute home yoga practice right now

Hi everybody! I haven’t posted here for a little while, but I re-discovered this gem YouTube clip of Sadie Nardini and wanted to share it for you.

It’s just 6 minutes. So do yourself a favour, unroll your yoga mat, take those socks off, give yourself a gift of a yoga practice! OR… don’t even worry about unrolling your mat, just sit down on a comfy spot on the lounge room floor.

Sadie shares the ‘Golden Flame Breath’. Those students who attend my classes will know it! It’s an amazing practice….you know you have 6 minutes….

Let me know how you go?! I hope you ENJOY!

Karen xo

My three silent days at Maitripa

Friday evening arrival

At the end of the track that is the driveway, I park my car in the car park, beside a huge Buddhist stupa surrounded by prayer-flags flowing in the wind. I turn the ignition off and step out of the car. Time seems to be still. I have been here before and there was the same tranquillity – the wind rustling through the trees, the views over the hills, and the amazing peace and quietness as though there was nobody else around. The other few cars in the carpark gave it away that actually there are other people around…somewhere. I walk across to the tiny building which is the office and peek inside; there is nobody there, so instead I just gaze out at the view. The nervousness I had felt during the drive here is already starting to fade a tiny bit, or at least melt at the edges. Funny that I am nervous all over again, when I have been here before and attended silent retreats before. Not really sure what I am worrying about anyway.

I see a guy walking from the café/kitchen and he walks to me and introduces himself – D, the manager. He assigns me a room and I hug myself smiling, knowing it’s the room right next door to the room I had been in last year, and overlooking the beautiful garden and hills. Just as I remember, it’s a tiny room with a smooth wooden floor, a single bed and a bedside-table with a lamp – simple…. and all mine for 3 nights. Down the path at the end of the building is the meditation hall, and beside that is the building which includes the bathrooms. The bathrooms are sort of caravan-park style, with a few spiders hiding in the corners, yet very clean and perfectly fine.

I walk the path to the meditation hall, slip my shoes off, and enjoy the luxury of feeling like there is still nobody else around – I step inside. The same amazing peaceful energy fills the room. It’s beautifully decorated with Buddhist statues, pictures, and adornments at the front of the room and also a colourfully decorated roof. Our red meditation cushions are set out in a large circle around a room, and in the centre of the room a candle circled by crystals.

As I walk around the garden I meet some of my neighbours and fellow meditators that I will soon be sharing the silence with. Funny how I feel a little awkward and shy being there by myself BUT everyone else is exactly the same – there alone! And everyone is lovely and friendly and keen to chat….well we only have a couple of hours until our first meditation session and then the silence will begin. It’s lovely to see V again who attended the retreat with me last year – its funny that we don’t really know each other, besides from the fact that we both practice yoga and meditation and have been through the retreat experience before, but chatting to her is very comfortable and she feels like a friend. She tells me that she is booked to attend A’s next retreat also which is 10 days in India and I smile and I’m excited for her.

Over dinner our whole table chats as if we are old friends. One lovely lady, D suddenly realises from our conversation that the whole retreat will be in silence, and she erupts with laughter at herself; she is obviously a very chatty and social person and looks at us in mock horror wondering how she will survive. We all giggle along with her.

The first session in the mediation hall begins a little late because dinner was running a bit over time and also there were a few people still arriving and checking-in. Walking in for that first session feels a little funny, as I remember previously – because as I choose a ‘spot’ and place my own mediation cushion and blankets there, this will be my ‘spot’ in the circle. And suddenly I’m more conscious of other peoples’ energies. Soon all the places except one are filled. Then our meditation begins.

There is a person making small noises and I find it a bit distracting. A lady on the other side of me has a pop-up meditation seat, that is sort of tent-like, and I find myself disapproving of it. I begin to wonder about the choice of my spot. I begin to wonder WHAT I am doing here. I begin to wonder about the talk that is going on in my head.

The one remaining place is filled part way through our session, as we are going around the circle to introduce ourselves. A young lady tiptoes stiffly into the hall and sits on the cushion and introduces herself as ‘needing’ meditation to be able to ‘function’ in her life due to various problems that she didn’t elaborate on. She looks a mixture of vulnerable, stressed and determined, and I like her already. I feel a little sad for her that she didn’t get to chat with any of us over dinner, how she is thrown right in at the deep end straight into silence.

I am extremely tired by the time my head hits the pillow. Plus I have a mild headache. Luckily I packed my heat-pack, and placing the weight of that across my eyes, I tuck myself into bed expecting that I just need a really good sleep.

Saturday

Sleep didn’t happen very well at all. Nonetheless I’m out of bed at 5.11am to take a shower before the morning session. It’s sort of nice being out in the morning air when it’s so quiet and still and dark. I’m the first in the bathroom and so there is no waiting for showers. Thank goodness for the beautiful hot shower and I feel a tiny bit better, despite my headache still hanging around. As the 6am wake-up gong is being chimed, I make myself a cup of peppermint tea in the kitchen, and so I have plenty of time to drink my tea, walk into the garden, and gaze at the morning sky lighting up the hills.

At 6.30am we are all seated in the meditation hall and our meditation begins to the sound of a version of Gayatri mantra from A’s ipod. At least I think it’s Gayatri mantra – I notice thoughts inside my head wishing for silence instead of the music; the guy chanting has a very deep voice that seems weird to me. Annoyance rises up…. as if I’m sitting in my car stuck in traffic at roadworks and the guy holding the sign looks as at though he is never planning to turn his sign from ‘stop’ to ‘slow’. After the mantra we continue our meditation in the silence. My headache makes it a little challenging to stay seated upright and I have to remember to be compassionate to myself, so after a while I fold forward and place my head down on the floor on a blanket. Plus there is the left leg starting to go numb around about the 30 minute mark, grrrr!

The timetable is:

6.30 – 7.30am                    Meditation session

7.30 – 9.00am                    Yoga class

9.00am                                Breakfast, then free time

11.00 – 12.30pm               Seated Meditation, including 15 minutes walking meditation

1pm                                       Lunch, then free time

3.30pm – 5.00pm             Meditation session, including 15 minutes walking meditation

6pm                                       Dinner

7.30 – 9.00pm                    Meditation session, including discussion

I had sort of forgotten how the self-talk keeps going inside, despite no external talking. The internal talk seems to become louder, like it’s trying to find a way out! For this purpose I write a lot in my journal and A LOT comes out. I am annoyed about many things, past, present, future. Annoyance seems to be a big theme…..which I realise is the polar opposite of a quality I would much prefer to cultivate – Contentment.

I eat a very big breakfast of museli, stewed prunes, yoghurt, and toast with honey. Then I sign my name into the ‘hill walkers’ list. All I need to do is pop back into my room for my hat, water-bottle and mobile phone. I get incredibly frustrated at myself that I cannot find my hat; where could I have left it?! Grrrr! But i give up the hunt and decide the trees are very shady and I’ll survive without it.

I walk up the hill, amongst the most beautiful gum trees, ferns, birds and the wind gently blowing….i notice lots more self-talk and it’s distracting me from just enjoying the beauty of nature. My self-talk is loud and critical, and I’m so annoyed at myself. How can I be so silly to have lost my hat, and racking my brains trying to figure out where I left it. And I’m annoyed at being annoyed! I am aware of the negativity of my self-talk, and console myself that at least I am aware. Returning to my room, my hat (of course) reveals itself as being there all along.

Lunch – amazing! Chickpea and veggie curry with rice, rosted pumpkin and sweet potatoes and salad. Then dessert – apple crumble! ……how nurturing to be served such beautiful meals! I realise that because of my big brekky I hadn’t felt hungry for any morning tea, and because of my big lunch I know I won’t be hungry for any afternoon tea either. I just take a pear from the fruit bowl.

Mostly during free time, I rest my weary head. A combination of resting, alternate nostril breathing, ‘legs up the wall’ pose, and self-reiki. But my headache isn’t really budging much, and just like my self-talk, I realise that for the time being I will have to live with it.

I have a little conversation with myself about the evening meditation session – perhaps I shouldn’t go and just go to bed earlier. But I don’t want to miss anything. But my head is driving me crazy and I’m so tired. But it’s just seated meditation. In the end, I push myself to go. The gong chimes and I slip off my shoes, enter the hall, and take my seat on the meditation cushion.

Despite my aching head, I feel quite peaceful as we begin meditation. But as previously, I need to keep placing my head down and end up in child’s pose with a blanket under my head. I become annoyed I have to shuffle around a bit to get myself comfortable, but I’m trying to be gentle with myself….yes ‘trying’. And I start finding annoyance in the small movements and small noises from others beside me. Am I really meditating at all?… because I’m too busy being annoyed! The annoyance flood-gates seem to open and memories flood in. My body even becomes uncomfortable in child’s pose – and noticing that I scold myself internally – “How can I, a yoga teacher, be uncomfortable in child’s pose?!”

I go to bed exhausted, after a fair amount of more venting in the pages of my journal. I console myself that tonight, night two, I will get a great night sleep.

I’m missing my children and husband, and I suppose feeling a bit sorry for myself.

Well, yes, I fall asleep as my head hits the pillow……but then the theme of annoyance continues! Because not one, but at least two mosquitoes keep buzzing near my head and I cannot sleep. I know it’s more than one, because at 3am I finally squash one (sorry gentle Buddhists) and I then lie back on the bed. But soon the next mozzie is buzzing by my ear. I give up, cover my head and face and fall asleep from exhaustion around 4am.

Sunday

It’s light outside when I wake and I realise the 6am gong is being chimed. Damn it. I throw on my clothes and try to get my head straight. ARGH….headache, when will you leave? This morning calls for a cup of tea with milk; it’s the least I can do for myself to be able to make it into the meditation hall with any sort of ‘okay-ness’. The water in the urn isn’t all that hot, so the tea is just warm, but – whatever! I almost scull it down, grab my yoga mat and blanket and make it to the hall just before the 6.30am gong.

I settle myself on my ‘spot’ and the same version of Gayatri mantra plays from the ipod. My neighbours either side of me seem as steady and still as rocks, and I realise that I feel very comfortable by their constantly being there either side of me. Seeing my lovely neighbour on my right sitting there and looking so peaceful in Virasana on top of her cushions, I wonder if it’s really true that she has never meditated before (as she had mentioned at our first dinner); she just looks like such a natural.

The one hour of meditation seems way too long and is extremely challenging for me. In the silence my mind starts stirring up more stuff. I decide to do my chakra cleanse meditation…after all there is plenty of time and plenty of silence. So I work my way from my base chakra upwards, a meditation practice I have learnt from my modern mystic course with Belinda Davidson. We stay in the hall for yoga – which of course my body soaks up like a sponge, even despite my headache. But there is even more annoyance during yoga….just about little things which seem rather petty and silly, people making noises, people stomping into the hall too loudly, my neighbour swishing her arm near my face….I start wishing to be away from other bodies. I start wishing for solitude.

In my room after breakfast as I try to rest my weary head, I start daydreaming about packing everything up, packing it into my car, and driving home to my husband and children. I’m homesick. And I’m so tired of the voice in my head, the judgements, the criticism. I resolve that if I stay, then I won’t go to the evening meditation session tonight. I will just sleep as much as I can. And enjoy the peaceful surrounds. And gaze at the sky. Breakfast had been really nice – hot porridge with prunes and yoghurt. You know what else I loved about breakfast? D was there next to me when I sat down with my bowl and I looked at her and she smiled at me and I smiled back. Also across on the next table V and I shared a smile after we both noticed the toast had popped with no claimant. Oh goodness, I need those smiles. Why? I suppose it’s support. And acceptance. And being okay with myself.

When the gong goes for the 11am session I sigh and drag myself there. I feel like I’ve been run over by a tractor. At least I don’t have to make any conversation, because with the lack of sleep I’m not sure I could string a sentence together without sounding like an idiot.

A talks about compassion for self……aha, that’s me! He also talks about resting in the body, and noticing any areas of tension or pain and softening around it…..another aha! Still the self-talk drags on…..it’s like I’m trying to pile ‘shame’ on myself….”you are a yoga teacher and you meditate every day, yet you can’t sit upright?” “You are just dealing with a headache, and some people deal with chronic pain for god’s sake” “Why are you even here? What’s the point? You are getting nowhere!”.

In the silence, I practice my chakra cleanse meditation again. My mind wanders away, my self-talk continues, but I keep drawing back to the chakra I’m up to and I breathe in the colour and I relax as I breathe out. …..from somewhere I hear the words “it’s okay Karen…..”

“It’s okay, you don’t have to attend the evening session, you can go to sleep early instead.” “It’s okay, if you cannot sit up, just lie on your back like a few of the other people are.” “It’s okay if you aren’t even meditating, so what?” “It’s okay, you are doing fine.”

“IT’s ALL OKAY”

In the afternoon, I take a hot shower and let the water stream down over my shoulders. I comb conditioner through my hair and remove all the knots. I dress in clean and warm clothes, as the evening is becoming very cool. I’m reminded how small acts of self-care and self-kindness can go a long way. The power of a hot shower.

Before dinner, I sit outside on the hill, on the far edge of the garden overlooking the valley towards Healesville. My hair still damp and flying around to dry in the breeze (which is lucky as I didn’t pack a hairdryer and the nights get cold here). I cross my legs and close my eyes and slipping into meditation is easy….. I start bringing awareness to my chakras. I realise my headache is almost clear, my energy is restoring. I just sit. I feel such peace.

For some reason A chimes the gong early for our evening session. My doubts about attending the evening session are gone and I walk barefoot into the hall and join the circle. What beautiful energy our circle has. I’m reminded of a comment A told us of a person who said that he felt more connected to the circle of people he was meditating with and didn’t know at all, that he felt after having long conversations with people he did know. I sit up straight easily and effortlessly begin to meditate and I love the music that fills the room and that special auspicious time of the evening as the dusk begins to creep up. I peek out the windows and see the colour of the sky. I know it’s getting chilly out there and I’m glad to be cosy in this hall and part of the circle.

But soon, it’s brought to A’s attention that one person who is not sitting on her meditation cushion in the circle may not have returned from her afternoon bushwalk. Her room is opened to find that she isn’t there. There is no response when calling her mobile phone. Several people organise to search for her. The search is unsuccessful and I’m standing by the office waiting for news with several others, as we see two police FWDs pull up in the carpark. The evening is becoming cold and dark, and we are all concerned for her safety. Around 10pm we are all sitting on the tables outside the kitchen when we hear  call from nearby “They found her!” We are all so thankful she is okay, and then she arrives – very exhausted from her 7 plus hours of walking, very apologetic to everybody, but we are all so relieved she is here with us. Our silence will begin again when we wake in the morning.

I can’t wait to tuck myself into bed, and finally I sleep like a peaceful and content baby.

Monday

Just before 6.30am it’s such a lovely thing to walk into our meditation circle and feel the caring that we all felt towards Am last night. She was lost and all we wanted to do was find her and bring her ‘home’. It just goes to show that ‘interconnectedness’ does exists between us – it doesn’t seem to matter that mostly we don’t know each other at all.

This, our last day, feels like someone pressed the fast forward button, and I want to savour every moment. The walking meditation on the grass is so wonderful, being in that slow motion movement feels like time is also slowing right down. I love the feel of the earth beneath my feet and my body feels so at ease.

We enjoy a beautiful lunch together and now we can all talk. Everyone has so much to share – there is talk about the mosquitoes, spiders (including a massive huntsman in the ladies bathroom which was relocated into the garden), and reptiles. Sleeplessness. Meditation positions. Struggles are shared. Everyone is smiling, sharing and being heard.

Our closing circle is different from our opening circle. When it’s my turn, I feel nervous to speak for about the first 3 words, and then I just keep talking and suddenly it’s easy. I look around the circle as I pause between words, and everyone is listening, and they care about what I say.

I listen to each person in turn and I love hearing their words. I love hearing about their experiences. We are all unique. And yet we are all pretty much the same.

I’m not a fan of goodbyes. I receive hugs and give them. We slowly make our way out, little by little, saying goodbye to others as we go. I have everything packed in my car, except my meditation cushion and car keys in my hands. I’m still waving goodbye as I unlock my car and jump in. I start the ignition and I’m smiling to myself. I wonder what the kids got up to over the weekend with their dad, and I can’t wait to hug them all.

The ‘Gayatri mantra’ is playing inside my head, the version that A played each morning at 6.30am, and I love it.

My heart is glad, content, and peaceful…… I’m saying goodbye to Maitripa, but it’s just for now.

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Hints for the home practicing yogi

So you’ve attended a fair amount of yoga classes and are wondering how to make a home-practice work for you?

Here’s a few hints that I hope will help you…..

1. Keep it simple and realistic

My current commitment is just 10 minutes each day. I do suggest each and every day; it might sound a bit scary but this is a commitment to yourself. Sometimes I just practice for 10 minutes, but usually longer….if time permits! I am a mother, so sometimes time doesn’t permit. If you have other responsibilities, be flexible so you can still have your practice.

One morning my son was awake with the sparrows and so he joined me for meditation…it wasn’t what I had in mind, as I had wanted to be alone, but it worked fine, and allowed me to use my mantra of ‘acceptance’. So long as I get my 10 minutes, then ‘tick’.

2. Same time each day

For me it’s first thing in the morning, and although it wasn’t always easy, now I cannot go without it. Like I cannot leave the house without eating breakfast or brushing my teeth. It’s just non-negotiable and such a valuable part of beginning my morning.

3. Same place

If you have a cosy corner of your bedroom or lounge room, make that your space. Small is fine. It will gather a lovely vibe pretty quickly if you practice there each day!  If enough space, leave your yoga-mat or meditation cushion there….I also like to have warm blanket for the chilly mornings. But, I have to admit, I don’t worry about my yoga mat so much anymore. I used to think I couldn’t practice yoga without it, but then I realised I was creating a barrier. My place in the mornings is beside the window in my room, and I have my meditation cushion and blanket nearby; if I practice asana after my meditation, I do without my mat.

Have a ‘back up’ place also, in case that cosy corner is needed by other family members. For example I often go into my backyard in the early mornings. When I’m travelling I find a place that will be my ‘spot’ for the time. Eg, in a park, under a tree, near the beach, under a shelter…but needs to be within reasonable walking distance.  So long as you won’t be disturbed by others, or at least feel that you wouldn’t be distracted if you heard other people nearby.

4. Be prepared

If you plan an early morning practice, then think about it the night before. If you have what you need organised and nearby, there is less chance of accidently waking family members. Plus it’s hard to ‘chicken out’ when everything is all set.

In winter keep warm or you will be distracted. Rug up…scarf, beanie, extra blankets wrapped around waist/chest, explorer socks….Melbourne winter mornings can be really cold, but I no longer let that deter me! If outdoors wear shoes if it keeps your feet warm.  I’ve even practiced on chilly winter mornings with a blanket right over my head! Salute to sun as the beginning of practice brings lots of warmth. Extra padding needn’t stop you from moving your body!

In summer it’s a little easier!

5. Inspiration from classes

I find the best inspiration comes from things that I love so much that they remain in my memory. You could even take a pen & paper to class and write things down afterwards (probably not during class, unless it’s a workshop!)

If there is something from class that you love but can’t quite remember, please ask me (or those that attend other teachers, do ask your teacher, they are there to support you and your practice)! I love to be asked!

6. Other inspiration

Books, Dvds, Youtube, facebook, blogs, apps! There is so much information out there to get your inspired! The only risk is getting yourself overloaded. For that reason, books are my personal preference, because it takes me a lot longer to read and absorb the information.

A really excellent book on establishing a home practice….

Forty Days of Yoga: Breaking Down the Barriers to a Home Yoga Practice by Kara-Leah Grant.

Forty Days of Yoga: Breaking Down the Barriers to a Home Yoga Practice

And I do have lots more book recommendations, but I will save that for another time!

7. Record your practice

I highly recommend you keep a diary or notebook, so you can make notes of your practice as you go…..eg. what you practiced, how you felt? You may decide to stick with a particular practice such as seated meditation, or salute to the sun, and that helps bring a ‘rhythm’ to your practice.

Writing about it is really ideal, even if you just spend one minute afterwards. You could also write questions that you are unsure of and ask me (or your teacher) next class. Plus it keeps you accountable to yourself! AND it helps with Self-motivation!

There is also a great app that I recently added onto my phone, called ZenFriend….it’s fantastic because a)it’s free (although upgradable), b)it’s a timer with a peaceful chime, and c)it keeps track of each session and you can add a note.

There are lots more apps out there, but I look for the simple and easy ones, so that I’m not loosing valuable practice time looking at the app.

8. Reward yourself

Because you deserve it! After I reached 40 days using the guidance of Kara-Leah Grant’s book that I mentioned above, my reward to myself was booking myself in to do a reiki level one course…and I loved every second!

I hope you find some of my suggestions helpful! The final suggestion I will leave you with is the most simple and most helpful for me…because JOY allows everything to flow:

Enjoy your practice

Best wishes! Karen

Giving

This morning I loaded three big bags of groceries into my car, took my children into school, popped in to say good morning to their teachers, hugged them goodbye, and then returned to my car and then visited these lovely ladies at Anglicare……

Yes! I did my elf thing and took our donations in!

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AA anglicare donations

Thank you to my students. It is so wonderful to be the elf and deliver our donations. I am so humbled by everyone’s generosity.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Wishing you and your family a peaceful and joyous Christmas and New Year

With Gratitude, Karen

Health-plus for your chakras

I am fascinated by all things to do with the chakras!

Recently I completed training for Reiki levels 1 & 2 with Maria of “Reiki Inspirations” …. yes I was truly inspired; reiki is amazing! And Maria is a beautiful soul and inspiring teacher.

Have you tried reiki? Its a natural form of healing. You can read more about what reiki is on Reiki Inspirations website here. It’s one of those things that you really need to experience for yourself, rather than listening to someone else’s experience!

Currently I am also studying Belinda Davidson’s level 1 course of ‘School of the Modern Mystic’. Did I mention that I love learning?!

The chakras are the energy centres within the body and above the crown of the head. Usually we focus on the main chakras, however there are also many more minor chakras spread throughout the body. These were ‘mapped’ by yogis in ancient times….and now modern science can tell us where each major nerve plexus is located within the body, and guess what?….they correspond to what the yogis thousands of years ago mapped out as the chakra system! Fascinating!

Do you have, or are you interested to have, awareness  your chakras?

Yoga practice helps, and when I say ‘yoga’ that includes meditation practice. Although as I have discussed with my students – meditation can be difficult sometimes because of the ‘monkey-mind’ thing!

That’s where yoga asana can be fantastic, flowing slowly and smoothly from one posture to another, or pranayama (breathwork), or there are a whole heap of other yogic practices that help to lead into the ‘meditative’ state.

Why are our chakras important?

Well each of the chakras governs an area of the body physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. For example the first chakra which is located at the base of the spine governs the legs, feet, being grounded in life, being stable, feeling supported, feeling part of a tribe, feeling that you receive what you need in life for your survival….. I could go on, there is so much to learn about each of the chakras!

When there is an ailment in the body, it can be traced to a chakra (or several), whether this be on the physical level or other level…for example – knee pain or foot pain may be linked to an imbalance in the first chakra. Ankle sprain? – what is going on in your life? Are you getting the support you need? Or if you are not feeling grounded, or if you are not feeling ‘at home’ where you live, it may be linked to an imbalance in the first chakra.

As Belinda Davidson says, and I feel it to be true:

“When your chakras work, your life works”

And this is why practices such as yoga, meditation, and reiki can help you feel balanced, centred, grounded, relaxed and peaceful – balancing and harmonising your chakras!  This is why I fell in love with my yoga practice.

Guided Chakra Cleanse by Belinda DavidsonI have been practicing this Guided Chakra Cleanse Meditation  by Belinda Davidson because it is part of my studies. It’s compulsory for me as part of my studies, but it has been so worthwhile.  It is truly an amazing guided meditation, and I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in the health of their chakras.

I will write more about my studies with the ‘School of the Modern Mystic’ one day soon, but for now I’m busy absorbing it all in. Like yoga, and like reiki, it’s about practice and experience.

Let me know if you download the Guided Chakra Cleanse, and if you do, how you go with the meditation! I always recommend meditation practice be in a seated position, but for this, it’s a little bit different; it runs for just over half an hour…. sometimes I lie down for it and just let it all sink in like a guided relaxation. If you want to be sure to stay awake, then seated is the best.

I would love to know how you go! Best wishes from Karen

 

Inspiring Peace, Peaceful Mothering Interview

My first reaction when Olga of Peaceful Mothering with Olga Dossa asked me to do an interview as part of her Inspiring Peace series was – wow!!…but I’m not sure, maybe my life is too ho-hum, maybe my peaceful mothering skills are not all that er…peaceful? Am I a wise woman? Then it dawned on me that I was holding a measuring stick of ‘perfectionism’ up against myself and that ‘peaceful’ and ‘perfect’ are two different things. And I much prefer the first of the two.

Also, I have been consistently inspired by Olga and her beautiful blog, so then to be invited to be a part of it….well it sort of knocked my socks off.

I am absolutely honoured to share this with you. You will learn a bit more about me and what inspires me. You will read about how yoga has influenced my ‘peaceful mothering skills’ and one of my favourite mantras. This is a mantra that absolutely works.

Hope you enjoy reading! Karen

http://olgadossa.com/inspiring-peace-conversations-with-wise-women-karen-buckland/

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Drifting into peaceful slumber…relaxation for your children

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My daughter is 9 years old. It doesn’t seem that long ago that she was born. Those first few precious moments and first days with her are imprinted so clearly in my memory, just like it was yesterday. I was awestruck just observing her tiny and sweet little being, wrapping her preciously, popping her into her cradle, and watching her peacefully sleeping.

She still sleeps very peacefully, but now with so many exciting things going on in her 9 year old life, sometimes falling asleep doesn’t happen so easily.

One night, she had some of her friends over for a sleepover. Both her and friends were very excited, and had spent the afternoon dancing around crazily, and then after dinner watching movies. Once they were all snug and settled into bed, I thought sleep would happen easily on account of the yawns and sleepy faces. The whispers and giggles went on for quite a while, and became louder and louder, and I realised that sleep just wasn’t happening!

So I popped into the room and asked if anyone would like to hear a nice relaxing yoga story. Yes, they did!

Here you will find “The Balloon Ride script” that I read to them….Guess what?…By the time I finished I realised they were all soundly asleep!

Wow! Powerful stuff. It took me about 10 minutes to read the script. It is from a book called “The Relaxation and Stress Reduction workbook for kids” by Shapiro, Sprague & McKay.

Sometimes this might help your child too….let me know how you go!

Hope your family sleeps peacefully tonight, goodnight!

Karen

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Be prepared to be inspired by these words from Gabrielle Bernstein

One of my favourite inspirational people is Gabrielle Bernstein, and this is one of my favourite talks on Youtube. I love the way she breaks it down. I love the way she shares what inspires her. How better to spend the next 16 minutes? Press play and you might just find a different perspective on living life.

I love contemplating those four things, they just make so much sense, and so short and sweet…they seem simple, yet in life all sorts of things get complicated and we tend to get a bit bogged down. Whenever I feel that bogged down feeling, I’m going to keep standing myself up and try my best to wipe of the mud, and focus on these four:

1. Be willing
2. Surrender
3. the F-word is forgiveness
4. Expect miracles

I love how she says “know the universe has your back”.
It’s true, I know I don’t always stop to think how supported I am. But I am supported, in so many ways. It’s about perspective!

I also love the words “share your truth”.
Listen to your heart (or as Gabrielle says her ‘ing’ or inner guide)…. and then share from your heart and see how things in life just seem to flow. See how sharing your passion and inspiration feels and you might be amazed.

Hope you enjoyed this… May you expect miracles 🙂
Karen

Yoga mat TLC

I respect my yoga mat. Each time I unroll it I’m reminded of the countless times I have stood/lay/balanced upon it as I’ve practiced. As I mentioned to a lovely student of mine, I quite often practice by the window in the sunshine, but it doesn’t really matter whereabouts I am, my mat is with me and that is my little space.

Here are my suggestions for “yoga mat TLC”….

1. Cleaning – I use a spray-bottle with water, vinegar, a drop of tea-tree essential oil, and a drop of lavender essential oil. The essential oils aren’t ‘essential’ but they are nice. If you just use water & vinegar, don’t worry about the vinegar smell as it will fade. Spray over mat, wipe down, maybe repeat, then allow to dry inside (not in the sun). You may be surprised how dirty the cloth ends up.

2. Keep Out of heat & sun – I have a Jade yoga mat which I love because it is both environmentally friendly and has great grip, however I need to keep it out of the sun. Please don’t leave your mat in a hot car.
(Another great thing about Jade is that they plant a tree for each mat purchased, so check them out online or in yoga shops if you are looking to invest in a new mat.)

3. And finally the best thing to show your mat how much you love it …… roll it out and practice yoga!
I promise you your mat won’t mind whether you do a series of challenging postures, rest your forehead down in Child’s pose, or lie in Shavasana.
A handy hint is to keep your mat nearby in a room where you are most likely to practice. Sometimes if I decide I would like to literally ‘roll’ out of bed in the morning and onto my mat – then I have it ready and unrolled the night before, right beside my bed, voila!

Happy yoga mat, and happy yogi!
Best wishes,
Karen
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The power of smile :)

Isn’t it funny how little things can be so powerful?
Try smiling right now for no reason at all 🙂

Breath in and SMILE
Breath out and RELAX

Yesterday I stumbled across a youtube clip – a guided meditation by a woman who smiles and smiles and smiles. I didn’t meditate along, I just sat and watched, amazed by her beautiful smile. Gosh, I thought, I would like to smile like that.

The day flew by and before I knew it the time was 3pm and almost time to collect my two sweetpeas from school. But hold on!… I thought… I was going to try that meditation with the smiling woman! I had about 10 minutes to spare, and didn’t bother trying to find the youtube clip again, and it turned out I didn’t need any commentary anyway. I just grabbed my meditation cushion and sat at the window, closing my eyes, bringing awareness to my breath, and simply….smiling 🙂

Wow!
I was so amazed at the effect, that after school I suggested to my daughter to give it a try, explaining how when you feel good, you smile….AND it can work the other way around too. Closing her eyes, she gave it a 3 second try, and then opened her eyes smiling happily at me.

You don’t even have to begin with anything to smile about!
Smiles are for free and they are wonderful.
Happy smiling!
Karen
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